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A time and place for rebuttal

January 16, 2020

I had a gentleman message me on LinkedIn. He stated he is an engineer and he was interested in what he saw in my LinkedIn profile. I responded to his message stating that I had closed the shop and was in the same position of being an older only I called it experienced worker. In his response to my response, his first sentence was "don't you mean older worker". He then followed that up with he wanted to know if he could visit the shop. Let me tell you a dirty little secret, the minute you correct someone during the course of a conversation or correspondence on a matter in which it was plain what the subject was and what the writer or speaker was intending express you have for all intents and purposes ended any constructive dialogue. The corrected person will from that point on only continue the dialogue to be polite.

 

I have been in many conversations where the person speaking to me may have not stated the facts quite correctly but I did not needlessly correct them because I knew what they meant. I have an older brother who is a doctor and cannot grasp this concept. In the medical facility yes you want to clarify everything before you proceed but in everyday life, you must turn that off or you will find yourself only having conversations with like minded people.

 

So my silent response to the gentleman is no I do not want you to visit the shop as you have already shown you do not know the art of conversation.

True conversation is listening to learn not listening for a rebuttal. There is a time and place for rebuttal and it is not a general conversation.

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